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In a Communist Hospital

My View From A Gurney


“To jest chlopak!” It is a boy! With that declaration our son, David Lawrence Thompson, Jr. entered the world, April 6, 1979, a hearty 9 pounds, 141/2 ounces. Today, I vividly remember the details from that exact day 37 years ago.

Lying on the cold, hard gurney, I took in my surroundings. I was in a birthing ward in a Communist hospital behind the Iron Curtain in Warsaw, Poland. The long windows revealed that it was an early cold spring morning outside. Around me women were in various stages of the birthing process, some behind curtains, some not. It all looked and felt like something out of a black and white World War II movie. Only the birth experience itself, and the nearness my husband seemed familiar. The language, the equipment, the smells, the sounds, even the dress of the attending medical staff was different. And the procedures were definitely different. I was thankful to have arranged for a colleague to transport dissolvable stitches from the International Pharmacy in Vienna, having been told that none would be available. Good call.

Larry needed to leave; he would return with food and toilet paper, since the hospital could not provide supplies for its patients. I was alone, so very alone. A Sister, a Polish nurse, came by my gurney and asked if I would like of cup of tea. Tea? That would be nice. I was keenly aware of how terribly much I missed my Mother. The tea would be soothing.

Feeling desperately alone on the gurney, having just given birth in a land so far from my own, my thoughts floated back over the previous few weeks. 

Larry and I had searched arduously for a Polish doctor who would allow a husband to be present in the delivery room. Since this was Baby #2, we felt adequately trained in the method of natural childbirth. However, this was an outlandish request in the Communist medical system, and we needed a Polish doctor to grant permission. Finally, and I say finally, 6 weeks before my due date, we located a Professor Doctor who gave the desperately needed approval. Though he was not even present and a midwife was just as involved as the attending physician, this Professor Doctor would later take full credit for the successful delivery.

Why would any woman want to add childbirth to her repertoire of cross-cultural experiences?

A very good question. My bedrock answer then and now: the will of God. Years earlier as a student at Mississippi State University I became involved with the organization of Campus Crusade for Christ. There I met a group of students who had a smile on their face, a spring in their step and a song in their heart. These students were marching to the beat of a different drum, and I wanted join their ranks. I yielded to God complete control of my life and my future. I selected Proverbs 3:5-6 as my life verse: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.” 

Larry’s marriage proposal was, “Will you go with me in helping to reach the world for Christ?” My answer was “yes” - to the Lord, to him, and to a future of being a pioneer missionary.

The ramifications of these decisions found me alone on a gurney in a Communist hospital. I was not trying to be a heroine; I was not seeking to be a martyr. I just wanted to be in the center of God’s will. I was fully convinced His will was the safest place to be, and I also knew His will was "good, acceptable and perfect." (Romans: 12:2).

A host of factors had led to our prayer-saturated choice of giving birth in Warsaw. We had a little 3-year-old daughter to consider, and we had a home of our own. Any missionary will agree that no matter where home is, it is home, even when the address is Communist Poland. I did not want to have a baby while living transient out of a suitcase. Desperately, I longed to bring our baby home to our home and the modest nursery we had prepared for him. And we did.

Fast forward to 2007.

“What in the world were you thinking?!”

My son had just become a father, and the story of his own birth was the topic of our conversation. This is the son who was the first baby boy to be born in the Cold War to evangelical missionaries living covertly behind the Iron Curtain. David will never be able to be President of the United States; our Constitution prohibits anyone being born outside its borders from holding that office. But he will always have typed in his passport Place of Birth: Warsaw, Poland. This is a precious treasure. The Poles are remarkable people, and any identification with them is an honor.

But his question took me back to my view from the gurney where the cultural differences dominated, where the physical and emotional challenges were as real as my next breath.

There on that gurney, with tears streaming down my cheeks, a holy awareness enveloped me. I sensed the Presence of God is a real and tender way. He was there with me; no, I was not alone. In an ocean of the unfamiliar, He was The Familiar.

If I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your Hand will guide me.” He did. (Psalm 139:9-10)

My Presence will go with you and I will give you rest.” He did. (Exodus 33:14)

In Thy presence is fullness of joy.” Confirmed. (Psalm 16:11)

Even on a gurney.

 

Question: Where on your gurney of life have you discovered the Presence and faithfulness of God?

I didn't do it on purpose.

You don’t want to miss this! Children’s Author Beverly Cleary is approaching her 100th birthday, and Jenna Bush Hager invites us to sit and visit with the two of them on the TODAY show recorded at http://youtu.be/dcT5hsD2Pb. (cut and paste into your browser)

“I didn’t’ do it on purpose,” the Literary Legend says, on turning 100.

This amazing author has written more than 40 books, and has sold more than 75 million copies in 25 languages. Her first was penned in 1955. Beverly Cleary's wit, humor, and candor come through in this personal conversation. I was particularly inspired to learn her motivation for writing. 

Questions of interest are:

What are you most proud of?

What are you looking forward to?    

A bit of lightweight research gave me even more insight into the life of this fascinating woman. At Scholastic.com I discovered: 
•    The role her mother played in her love of books
•    Her own struggle as a reader
•    Her advice to children who aspire to write 

Learning to Love Books
Beverly Cleary was born in McMinnville, Oregon, and lived on a farm in Yamhill, a town so small it had no library. Her mother arranged with the State Library to have books sent to Yamhill and acted as librarian in a lodge room upstairs over a bank. There, Beverly learned to love books.

A Struggling Reader
When the family moved to Portland, where Beverly attended grammar school and high school, she soon found herself in the low reading circle, an experience that has given her sympathy for the problems of struggling readers. By the third grade she had conquered reading and spent much of her childhood either with books or on her way to and from the public library. Before long her school librarian suggested that she write books for children when she grew up. The idea appealed to her, and she decided that someday she would write the books she longed to read, but was unable to find on the library shelves — funny stories about her neighborhood and the sort of children she knew.

Advice to Children
Beverly's hobbies are travel and needlework. When children ask Beverly where she finds her ideas, she replies, “From my own experience and from the world around me.” Henry Huggins, written when she was in her early thirties, was her first attempt at writing. Her advice to the many children who write asking for “tips” on writing is for them to read widely while growing up, and when the time comes for them to write, they will find their own way of writing and will not need tips to guide them.


“Sixty years of work and a storybook life, with more chapters still to come,” leaves me wanting to dash to the children’s section of my public library! How about you?

 

Help! I Am Lost!

Lost.

There was no doubt about it; I was lost. Absolutely, undeniably LOST. On this bright, clear, cold, sunny day, I was on a reconnaissance mission any mother would relish. My daughter was engaged, and at her request, I was gathering research for her wedding dress. If I found options, she would book a flight to try them. 

My destination was The Bridal District. Though I had never been there before, I was not concerned; I had a plan, a good vehicle, and a full tank of gas. 

However, as I drove along, I began to notice a disturbing change in scenery. My surroundings began to drastically change, and there was no evidence of wedding apparel anywhere.

Then… I arrived at my 'destination'. Immediately I knew, something was wrong, very wrong. I was nowhere near The Bridal District. I was sitting outside a suspicious house, in a suspicious neighborhood. An overwhelming sense of dread descended in my car.
 
Quickly, I made a U-turn and a hasty departure. Retracing my points of decision, I made calculated adjustments, and reestablished my directions. 

This time I found myself in an even worse situation. I was in an abandoned industrial district, and nothing looked safe.  My mind ran wild as I envisioned gang members surrounding my car, asking for the drop-off. Increasing my anxiety was the awareness that no one knew where I was.

I was in trouble. 
     I was vulnerable. 
          I was afraid. 
               I was lost.

Mustering up courage and logic, I made one last attempt to recalibrate my directions. I drove to the nearest set of quadrants that offered landmarks and street signs, and I made a call for help

The voice on the other end of the line asked, “Where are you? Tell me what landmarks are around you?" 

After listening, came this response, "You are not too far off, but this is what you must do to get away from where you are, and arrive at where you want to be.” Right information, right person. These “right resources” proved true, and, yes, I eventually made it to The Bridal District.

Being lost is a sick feeling. And, truthfully, being lost is not limited to physical and geographical disorientation. Life Lostness also exists, and without warning, we are tossed into spiritual and emotional vertigo. We set out toward a destination, and we fully intend to arrive. However, unexpectedly and painfully, we find ourselves in a place or situation we never imagined possible.

Life Lostness sounds like this:

The MRI showed…

I received a phone call telling me…

The principal asked me to come in for a meeting…

My husband walked in and told me…

When my daughter asked to talk…

I never knew the empty nest would…

But I thought she was my friend…

Our parent teacher conference revealed…

When we married I thought…

We moved here because…but now…

My world is turned completely upside down since…

I never dreamed I would find myself in this situation…

My guess is you can identify with exactly what I mean. Feeling vulnerable and afraid, confused and disoriented, you and I struggle to locate dependable landmarks. 

Life Lostness brings with it the urgent necessity to engage the Right Resources: Right information, Right person

Right information:

God and His Word are essential. His grace and truth are the ultimate best in leading me through any ache of Life Lostness. His Voice, through His Word, in the power of The Holy Spirit, offers the Dependable Quadrants needed for reorientation.

Right person:

A trusted friend is one of God’s greatest resources in a time of Life Lostness. She can listen as you describe where you are, and she can help guide you where you want to be. She is God’s gift to whisper, "In the midst of your disorientation, I assure you that you are not far off, but this is what you must do to get away from where you are, and arrive at where you want to be."

There are no shortcuts. In Life Lostness, time is needed for us to reorient ourselves. And somehow, along the tumultuous journey, we make a surprising and sweet discovery: He Himself has become our Destination. 

Question: What situation has thrust you into Life Lostness? What resources became essential in helping you move forward?