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If ~Then Call to Prayer

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In the quietness of my heart and from the solitude of my study, it seems timely and appropriate for me to put aside the post I planned, and simply invite you to pray:

“If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, forgive their sin and will heal their land” (2 Chronicles 7:14).

If

my people,

who are called by my name,

will humble themselves

and pray

and seek my face,

and turn from their wicked ways,

Then

I will hear from heaven,

forgive their sin

and will heal their land.

Living With Eternal Intentionality®

“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:

And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”

Psalm 139:23-24 (KJV)

First Aid for Our Marriage

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Our wondrous day filled with laughter and sunshine took a turn toward sour when a glitch in technology grabbed the upper hand and dragged my beloved and me unwittingly down the wrong road. Larry viewed life one way and I viewed it another. And of all the trivial things—our roadblock started with “Pass me the remote.” Now, our earlier hours of strolling outdoors hand in hand, gazing at signs of spring, and relishing the thought of ice cream at the end of the trail, seemed a lifetime ago.

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Before we knew what was happening, he and I found ourselves in a quagmire of misunderstanding. After several failed attempts to navigate the swamp, we raised the white flag and went to separate rooms to pray.

Sitting alone with the Lord—while wanting to deny my part in the dilemma—I sheepishly asked the Holy Spirit to give us direction so that our we would be stronger than either you or me. Then, I asked Jesus to be The Gate opening for us a new path forward, according to John 10:9; it also seemed fitting to ask Him to lead us from the desert we created for ourselves to the Green Pastures He promised to provide. And … I asked Him to be speaking to Larry. (I was not sure how my last prayer would be answered.)

Upon reconvening, I was gobsmacked. Larry shook his head and shared, “I have no idea why this came to mind, but while I was praying for us, The Lord brought the most unusual thought to mind.”

“Go on,” I replied, a bit skeptical.

“Long ago, in First Aid training, we were taught the fastest, the safest action to take when your clothes catch on fire, Stop, Drop, and Roll: stop in your tracks, drop to the ground, roll to thoroughly put out the fire.”

He continued, “I think you and I should apply these same three simple words to any situation where we start to draw a line in the sand with our communication. Rather than insisting on being right, let’s do this: Stop pushing to get our own way. Drop to our knees and pray. Roll the matter over to The Lord.”

Stop, Drop, Roll

The First Aid training idea seemed brilliant, and we both marveled that God really did answer our individual prayers for restitution and resolution. Bringing God into the equation brought supernatural resources beyond our human capacity. And of all things, He used the First Aid instruction as practical advice.

After nearly 47 years of marriage, Larry and I still remain fiercely vigilant in protecting our communication, since there is an unequivocal connection between the quality of our communication and the quality of our relationship. This commitment requires both of us, it requires tenacity, and beyond all else, it requires God. Only the Holy Spirit has the power to take us from the world of remotes through The Gate to Green Pastures.

Living With Eternal Intentionality®

What is your most recent memory of God demonstrating His presence in your marriage?

Where are the potholes and pitfalls in your marriage communication?

What would be your best advice on communication for your newly married self?

How I Survived Coach Stanton's Gym Class

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Guest post by Grace Kavgian, my delightful, 11-year-old granddaughter

With joy, I invite you to read as my grand-darling Grace shares her recent candid essay. Grace’s assignment “I Survived” came from her 5th grade teacher, and her neighborhood P.E. class led by IU softball Coach Shonda Stanton supplied the ideal content.

And just so you know, this widely successful P.E. class rounded the bases into headline news!

Now for Grace’s story.

How I Survived Coach Stanton’s Gym Class

By Grace Kavgian

Because of the Coronavirus, we were stuck in our neighborhood. We couldn’t go to school. My mom made arrangements for the IU Softball Coach, our neighbor, to give us P.E. every day. I was excited, but I didn’t know how hard it’d be.

Since it had been cold recently, and now the temperature had gone up to the 60’s, it felt incredibly hot. I couldn’t believe I was wearing a sweatshirt!

“Grace! Vera!” My mom called. Right. I have P.E. today. “Get your water bottles and head over!”

IU Softball Coach Shonda Stanton would be running our gym class, and there was no way I was prepared. I followed my mom’s instructions, and since my younger sister Vera was still putting her shoes on, I made her a water bottle too.

I breathed in and out, just trying to make myself a little cooler. Since Coach Stanton was our neighbor, we only had to walk a little ways over. When we got there, I immediately stripped off my sweatshirt, and ditched it next to my water bottle. Josiah, her son, was in 3rd grade, and he was going to participate as well.

As soon as I had gotten a few breaths in she yelled “Alright, gimme ten jumping jacks, normal style!”

Oh no.

I counted my jumping jacks, one, two, three, four… And later, ten. We worked very hard with more exercises, and I finally got to drink some water. I was panting, and I chugged half my water.

“Okay! Good warm-ups!” She called.

That was just warm-ups!?!?!?!?!?!?

She pulled out some small hurdles and a rope ladder. First, we had to jump forwards over the hurdles, and then backwards over them, ten whole times. I started for my water, but she was telling us to jump back and forth over them with JUST our right foot. No break for me!

As I walked up, Vera and Josiah were halfway through. I managed ten, but they were done first. Next, we repeated the exercise, but on our left feet. Being ambidextrous, I was the first one done. Barely.

Then, all of the jump-over-the-hurdles-ten-times exercises were repeated, but sideways. Dang! I was sooooo tired. And then, there was the rope ladder. We weren’t actually going to climb that, were we? There was nowhere to put it, anyway.

“OK!” Coach Stanton called. “Everybody to the ladder!”

We had to jump in each one, skipping none, on one foot. Man, that was hard. I tend to jump really far due to my long legs, so I skipped a ton. I went back and started over. That time, I made it into every square.

Later, Tatum Rose came along. She had been taking a walk, and decided she wanted to be in o the whole gym business. She did a few exercises with us, and then went home.

Finally, the end of P.E. came. I was tired. Not just tired, pooped! Completely pooped! I sat on the concrete, ready to leave. Then, the worst thing in the world happened. Vera asked Coach Stanton if we could do a jogging exercise. We had to jog one lap around our neighborhood trail. We all took off, and I was last. The slowest. But, ¾ of the way, I pulled ahead of Vera! I knew I would have enough power to pull ahead of Josiah, too. But no. I didn’t. I took second place, and drank half of the remainder of my water.

Finally, it was time to leave, and so we left. When we got home, I poured the remainder of my water on my head. I ran inside, put on a face mask, and lay in my bed until dinner.

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The Rest of The Story

Coach Shonda Stanton’s P.E. class brought a game changer to her neighborhood and attracted the attention of reporters. IndyStar, The Indiana Daily Student, and Big Ten Network documented the newsworthy COVID-19 event. (Click the links to read further.)

Photos by Coleman Kavgian