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Mentored by a Cancer Patient

Meet Jacque. With a radiant smile and a gentle spirit she brightens any room she enters.

No one saw the darkness lurking around the corner. In the context a routine doctor’s appointment, her life took an unexpected left-hand turn, and without warning, she found herself fighting for her life. You guessed it – breast cancer.

Out of the blue, this woman’s world turned upside down. For this math-teacher mom, questions drastically shifted from What’s for dinner to What if?

While cancer changed her life, and quite frankly, her life of faith, Jacque allowed our Growth Group to taste her struggles firsthand. Week after week - often around Marilyn's kitchen table - we sat in rapt attention as she innocently made known to us the way of God - a mystery in the midst of this reality. Because of her authenticity and vulnerability, I am a better person.

Over the agonizingly long months of surgeries and treatments, Jacque talked about her battle. As she did, she taught me about God. Her raw honesty revealed brilliant wisdom.

Without even trying, she silently modeled glorifying God in the face of an unknown future. From within the cauldron of suffering, her convictions of Christ brought clarity to the murky, cloudy confusion of a mean disease. 

And, when the mystery of her disease encountered the Mystery of her Faith, Jacque stood firm. I listened over time as she shared: 

Some places you can’t take anybody with you; you have to go by yourself. (a mystery)                       

Sometimes the pain is so great, I feel I am in the Presence of God in the Holy of Holies. (a mystery)    

Throughout this cancer, I have experienced God’s love for me. (a mystery)   

Think about this...sometimes we try so hard to figure things out when God just asks us to live them out. Do you agree?

Jacque's journey reminds me of Job 23:10: But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I will come forth as gold. This is no mystery

Living with Eternal Intentionality: What has someone battling cancer taught you?

Perhaps You Disagree with Our Approach to Parenting

Every Christian should be a missionary.

Challenged                                                                                                                                         Our core value teaching for our children met with challenges in the daily life routine of our double life reality. We encountered numerous dilemmas as we sought to navigate our way through uncharted waters.

Let me explain. Full disclosure of our mission in living in Poland was much too risky for their little lives. One innocent indiscretion of theirs could result in grave consequences for our family - true. But far greater consequences could result for those we ministered alongside, our Polish nationals. To our three young children, we lived in Poland where Daddy attended university as a student in Foreign Trade (every word true).

Keep in mind we were pioneering. Not everything fit missionary norms. Sometimes good answers to hard questions eluded us. Often, we were flying by faith by the seat of our pants. 

Conflicted                                                                                                                                           We were conflicted. As parents, we longed for our children to know our missionary hearts aflame for the world. Yet in order to reach this part of the world where we covertly resided, they could not know we were missionaries.

Or could they?

Clearly Led                                                                                                                                         This required divine intervention. Taking the dilemma to God in prayer opened a door of Solomon-type anointed wisdom. Every Christian should be a missionary became our principled instruction. Without compromise, this satisfied both our parental teaching, and our clandestine cover. What they were too young to know we withheld. What they needed to know, we revealed.

Every Christian should be a missionary.                                                                                         With passion in our parental teaching, we articulated in the simplest of ways: Every Christian should be a missionary. That is what the Bible teaches. No matter where you live, regardless of your profession, you should tell other people the Good News of Jesus. This is why we talk to Grażyna about Jesus; this is why we are concerned for Pani Miecia; this is why we love Pan Janek. Telling people about Jesus is God’s holy homework assignment for every Christian.

Often, though, in the quietness of my own heart I doubted. I would pray: Lord, is this enough? Will they get it? Will they have a heart to tell others about You?                                                           

Move ahead with me to one ordinary Sunday morning in Warsaw, Poland.

Getting out the door to church on this particular morning challenged our constitutions. Hair combed, boots on, coats buttoned, lost mittens found, quarrels quelled (times 3) eventually led to success, and we schlepped out the door. (That would be the door with 7 locks to unlock to exit and the same seven locks to re-lock behind us. No alarm system compared with the hardware system on that one front door.) Now locked and loaded, Larry and I took a parental deep breath, and pulled away from the curb.

We drove to our destination, the Warsaw Baptist Church, an important component of our lives. In our undercover life as clandestine missionaries, we exercised the right to attend church. Informers knowingly attended as well, but to all onlookers, Larry was a graduate student in Foreign Trade with his family in tow.                                                                                                                          

The church itself suffered hardship. History dealt Believers a harsh blow, and silent empty pews around us spoke volumes. The evangelical church population in Communist Poland barely reached .5% percent.                                                                                                                

Listening in Polish on Sunday mornings was not for the fainthearted, and today, particularly, I felt fainthearted.

Then God graciously intervened.

A visitor from America would be our speaker, a layman as an envoy from the Southern Baptist Convention. Hummm...interesting.                                                                                          

As Dr. Owen Cooper stood to speak, in a bellowing voice…

(Are you ready for this?) 

…he passionately pounded the pulpit to the beleaguered congregation: Every Christian should be a missionary. (You read correctly. Every Christian should be a missionary.)

Like ducks on a pond, three little heads sitting beside me popped up. Wide-eyed one could see the wheels turning in their little heads. The man on the stage, the authoritative speaker, taught just what Mommy and Daddy taught at home. Wow. This teaching must be true.

Comforted                                                                                                                                      Sitting in that cold church on that hard pew, in a most tender way, God supernaturally warmed my heart. With one powerful statement He coordinated my parenting with my pioneering - my mothering with my mission - and my calling with my concern. I learned that in our diligence to reach the world, God could be trusted to give us wisdom in our parenting.

Living with eternal intentionality: How have you seen God provide supernatural wisdom in your parenting?

16/11/3 Click!

Stubborn! The only description for the piece of hardware in my hand is stubborn.

The combination lock on my locker at the fitness center controls my life and emotions. Turn to the right - pause; back to the left - pause; then again to the right. Click should be felt and heard, but the Click is missing.

Again. Try again. Cold silent steel rests in the palm of my left hand. (Who has the patent on this combination lock, anyway?) Even though I try again and enter the correct combination, there is still no response.

Questions form in my mind as I start to develop a contingency plan. A mental inventory reminds me that my keys and driver's license (not to mention my regular clothes and coat) are behind a metal door that might as well be Fort Knox. All because of a combination consternation.

My trembling hands belie the outward façade of calm; at this late hour the center will soon be closing. Larry is out of town. So is David my son. Who am I going to call for help? Why did I come so late in the evening? Did I hear it raining outside?

Prayer…deep breath…command to trembling fingers…Turn to the right - pause; back to the left  - pause; then again to the right. Click. Yes! This time the blessed Click is heard and actually felt. Hallelujah! The combination finally worked. 

There exists, on a broader, more significant scale, another combination - 16/11/3  - which is always dependable and responsive, never stubborn or difficult. This combination consistently unlocks the door to supernatural, abundant living. In fact, this combination actually opens the Door to Life itself.

Read with me from Psalm 16/verse 11/and discover anew 3 promises: You have made known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand.

Three of life’s most penetrating questions find answers in this short combination:

Where do I find wisdom? You (Click!)

Where do I find joy? You (Click!)

Where do I find pleasure? You (Click!)

As humans, you and I are forever prone to attempt other combinations. We turn to the right - pause; back to the left  - pause; then again to the right as we search on our own for the secret combination to life and happiness. We yearn for the CLICK.

Yet, all the while the Click awaits us right here in 16/11/3 in the God of David. When we use the Right Combination, we unlock a life saturated with a supernatural sense of satisfaction.  

"Lord, it is true; my deepest desires are daily met in the combination of 16/11/3You have made known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand."

Click!

Living With Eternal Intentionality: What part of this combination is needed in your soul today? (wisdom or joy or pleasure?)