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Summer Reading at Its Best

“She wasn’t afraid to ask real questions.”

“She wasn’t afraid to ask real questions.”

Her absence continues to tug at my heart, my emotions, and my needs. What I would give to be able to discuss my current challenges with her!

If only she and I could return to that evening in Bavaria over wiener schnitzel, apfelstrudel, and coffee when our hearts first bonded. If only we could still be sitting comfortably around our dinner table in Germany with my children asking her questions about jungle life. If only as two couples—she and Lars with Larry and me—we could sit beside the Danube in Budapest, enjoying ice cream, and meander like the river itself in a slow movement of easy conversation. If only.

But we can’t; alas, we can’t. She is gone, and June 15th marks her Homegoing.

Therefore, Becoming Elisabeth Elliot, Ellen Vaughn’s authorized biography of Elisabeth’s early years is a soul-nourishing, sweet treasure to me. Destined to be a classic, this volume is rich with research beyond belief and offers summer reading at its best.

I never knew that Jim Elliot was nearly killed by a train in Wheaton, Illinois. Nor did I know that only a rolled shirt sleeve prevented his death from the fangs of a deadly viper while on a jungle trek. Details like these fill the pages with this new release.

Relationships receive primary attention in this work. Ellen Vaughn vividly describes “Betty’s” association with her mother and the family dynamics in the home where she grew up. As well, she articulates the painful challenges Elisabeth encountered upon visiting Jim Elliot’s Oregon family for the first time. Deeper into the book, the writer opens the door to the ongoing challenges Elisabeth encountered, as a young widow, with a coworker.

From these pages, I learned that the mission to the Waodani—the mission that ended in the violent deaths of five missionaries—was, in fact, a secret mission. “The event that some say galvanized the Christian movement for the second half of the twentieth century took less than fifteen minutes. Days later, the search and recovery party found the carnage . . .” (Ellen Vaughn).

Forever, I will be grateful for the woman, as Vaughn describes, “a critical thinker who wasn’t afraid to ask real questions . . .” This is the wife, mother, and missionary who said, “Obviously, God has chosen to leave certain questions unanswered and certain problems without any solution in this life, in order that in our very struggle to answer and solve we may be shoved back, and back, and eternally back to the contemplation of Himself, and to complete trust in Who He is. I’m glad He’s my Father.”

For your summer reading, without hesitation, I recommend Becoming Elisabeth Elliot by Ellen Vaughn

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Be sure to offer your recommendations for summer reading so that we can all benefit. And, by way of suggestion, I think this book would make a rich contribution to a book club in the fall.

Mistakes Mark 48 Years of Marriage

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Remembering the soft glow of candles, the scent of gardenias, and the melody of carefully selected music takes me back to a hot June afternoon in 1973. Even now, I see the look in my Daddy’s eyes as he and I stood alone on the steps outside our church.

On this day my father chose to wear his university class ring, silently letting me know that, for him, this was no ordinary day. He twisted the ring on his finger, and I watched him conjure up enough courage to walk his only daughter down the aisle.

Ah, the memories!

Marriage has been good to Larry and me. Down this road of 48 years, I love this man so much that I miss him when he walks into the next room! And, after more than four decades, a walk holding his hand still makes my heart go pitter-patter. (How can it be?)

Now, as we approach this 48th wedding anniversary, I reflect upon maximum joy and minimum regrets. And yet, mistakes do weave themselves into the realities. What are some examples?

  • Assuming he knows what is wrong, what is bothering me, or what is on my mind.

  • Expecting us to agree on the importance of an organized basement.

  • Taking advantage of my husband’s gracious spirit toward me by not learning to be punctual.

  • Trusting him to remember that putting my clothes in the dryer is not helpful.

  • Violating our clearly defined boundary of a no-chat zone. Though I delight in chatty conversation while we are getting ready, he values focus and solitude.

  • Anticipating that we share the same mindset about, “This needs to be fixed.”

  • Thinking we operate with the same definition for shopping.

  • Brining up tense, tiring, or troublesome topics at bedtime.

  • Believing that eating popcorn out of the same bowl will represent a mark of our mature marriage and warm companionship.

However, all mistakes pale when I realize that this man still loves Jesus more than he loves me. And every single day he wakes me up with a kiss, a cup of coffee, and the words, “I love you.” And this is the man who answers the question: “How long have you been married?” with the words, “Not long enough.” WOW!

Amazing grace—after 17, 520 days!

Always ready to do whatever it takes to make life work!

Always ready to do whatever it takes to make life work!

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I have made a ton of mistakes in life, but God be praised, I got it right when I said “yes” to this man’s question: Will you go with me in helping to reach the world for Christ?”

“Not to us, LORD, not to us but to your name be the glory . . . “ (Psalm 115:1).

Shhhh ... The Secret Sauce

The phone rings-Let me get that; The text dings-Let me get that; The doorbell chimes-Let me get that; The timer buzzes-Let me get that (Part 2, Irresistible Intimacy)

The phone rings-Let me get that; The text dings-Let me get that; The doorbell chimes-Let me get that; The timer buzzes-Let me get that (Part 2, Irresistible Intimacy)

The phone rings-Let me get that

The text dings-Let me get that

The doorbell chimes-Let me get that

The timer buzzes-Let me get that

Distractions dominate our lives, our thinking, and especially our attempts toward intimacy— intimacy with Jesus. The single most significant avenue toward building a relationship of intimacy with Jesus is spending consistent time alone in His presence. But needling intrusions will always arise. In our hyperactive, nonstop distracted culture we need to honestly consider the challenges.

The Intrusions

Internet

We live in a wireless world and easily become addicted to what this world has to offer. Yet, our souls are wired to need intimacy with Jesus.

Instant

In our appetite for instant, we have come to expect an Amazon Prime version of Intimacy with Jesus. Instant intimacy does not exist; intentionality toward intimacy does.

Idea

Intimacy with Jesus is all about Relationship. The erroneous idea exists that this pursuit is a fixed formula or a compact set of rules. No, no. Relationship rules over the rules. And intimacy is the byproduct of time and time and time again spent in the Presence of the One who knows us the best and loves us the biggest.

The Invitation

But hallelujah! The motivation mounts when we look more closely at His Divine Invitation.

Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly” (John 10:10 KJV).

“In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures forever” (Psalm 16:11NASB).

“This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him” (I John 4:9).

Shhhh … The Secret Sauce

Though counterintuitive and countercultural, the secret is in the decision to be still, to silence the distractions, to debunk the intrusions—don the AirPods—and spend time alone with Jesus to learn to live—really, really live. After all, “In him, we live and move and have our being” (Acts 17:28a).

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“I want you to be without care” (1 Corinthians 7:32 NKJV).

“The Lord of peace Himself give you peace always in every way” (2 Thessalonians 3:16).

Which intrusion is robbing you of developing an intimate relationship with Jesus?

How do you think an intimate relationship with Jesus could change the quality of your life?