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A Painfully Different Kind of Easter

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We went through fire and water, but He led us to a place of abundance. (Psalm 66:12)

Rybnik, Poland, Easter of 1978

A young woman befriended these Americans and invited us to spend our first Polish Easter with her and her family. She attended the university in Kraków, but her home of origin was the mining mecca of Rybnik.

Not knowing what to expect, yet wanting to deepen our cultural roots, we accepted. On the appointed day we packed and drove the ­­­­128 bumpy kilometers from our home to hers.

In spite of her gracious, Polish-perfect hospitality, the joy of the resurrection failed to affect our mood. We missed our families, the food tasted strange, and the weather bore little resemblance of spring.

Larry and I took a walk with our toddler in an attempt to quell the smothering sense of cultural stress; outdoors provided little relief.

Our environment depicted the grim grayness of the Communist world. Buildings were constructed with the same dark bricks of the concentration camps. The air was thick with coal dust, and the streets were covered with the awful grunge of mud and melted snow. Mixed with the pollution was my concern for our little girl's bright yellow snowsuit -  how would we ever manage to get it clean again?

I remember saying to Larry, “What on earth would you do if Rybnik, Poland, was your ministry assignment?” 

His reply stopped me in my tracks, “Debby…Rybnik, Poland, IS your ministry assignment.” 

How riveting! I stood motionless, and took in my despairing surroundings. I felt extremely small.  

Reality rolled over me like an avalanche as I calculated the daunting challenge of ministry in another country, in another culture, and in another language. This missionary certainly had a long way to go.  Standing there on a cobblestone street, I wondered if could God ever use me in such a place as Rybnik, Poland.

Our visit ended; we returned to Kraków for our language studies, and the fledgling beginnings of a clandestine ministry. Months, even years, passed, but the memory of that Easter experience never left us. Our commitment to live out our calling to Eastern Europe spanned decades, and eventually we witnessed the historical Fall of The Wall in 1989.

Fast-forward 30 years to February 2008

While traveling from our home in Hungary to a church congress in Poland, we received an invitation to speak to a local high school in, yes…Rybnik, Poland. Imagine my feelings as I stood to speak to the audience gathered within just a few blocks of that original walk on that bleak Easter holiday so many years ago.

Using a power point presentation of the Four Spiritual Laws, we openly shared the Gospel with two hundred high school students. Along with their twenty teachers, these students were given an opportunity to receive Jesus.

February 2008, Rybnik Poland

February 2008, Rybnik Poland

The rare Rybnik visit also included a connection with our original hostess. Over a meal of delicious Polish cuisine, which we now relished, we rejoiced at God's astounding faithfulness in each of our lives.

Later, on a deeply personal level, and with a sense of worshipful awe, I reflected on the difference between my two visits – my first visit in 1978, and my current visit in 2008 - to this town buried deep in the coal-mining region of Silesia. God’s thirty years of miracles within the Communist government, and God’s thirty years of miracles within me, were equally shocking. Standing there on a cobblestone street, I celebrated the joy of His work in my life to equip me, and His gracious plan to use me, even in Rybnik, Poland.

 Despise not the day of small beginnings. (Zechariah 4:10)

 

Do You Believe God Can Find a Needle in a Haystack?

We went through fire and water, but He led us to a place of abundance. (Psalm 66:12)

Wednesday, August 17, 1977, Kraków, Poland

The dark haired woman in the yard placed her spade in the dirt, pulled off her work gloves, and motioned for us to come inside. Later we would learn her name, Wanda.

This was not a typical day in our lives; ours was not a typical search. We needed a home, and we needed it fast. Our summer language institute with its provision of temporary housing ended, leaving us homeless. As undercover missionaries, we now faced an acute need for permanent housing.

Statistics in the Communist economy mocked our desire to find an apartment for our family of three - the housing crisis confounded belief. Typically, a Polish family waited nine to ten years to own an apartment, and in the interim, rented a room or lived in an overcrowded apartment with their family. In fact, it was a common practice for a couple, at the birth of a baby, to open an apartment account for their newborn, in hopes the child could own the dwelling when he/she reached the age of twenty one.

Facing dorm life as our only other option, we prayed. We asked our generous, miracle-working God to lead us to a needle in a haystack that only He could provide. Desperate in this uncharted faith terrain, we made a list for God.

Our prayer list for this desired apartment included:

  • A kitchen
  • A bathroom
  • A washer (dryers did not exist)
  • A yard where our toddler could play
  • Warm for bitter cold winter weather
  • Windows for light
  • Located in the smog-free zone of the city for healthier air
  • Situated within the home of a Polish family (to facilitate learning this new language and culture)

In summary, we were searching for a place to call home, a haven for two Americans with a baby, feebly following the call of God on their lives.

Our first lead, labeled luxury with all the comforts, turned out to be a combination living room-bedroom, no kitchen, and a semi-private bath. Reality taunted our tremulous faith. Could God do this? Would He come through? What if the dorm room became our home?

Our continuing search loomed ahead. Trudging wearily on foot, we hiked up a nearby hilly street. A couple working in the yard of their newly built home greeted us as we approached. We paused. Then, in a faltering Polish language, we explained our desire to rent an apartment. Our request fell on understanding ears. The dark haired woman in the yard placed her spade in the dirt, pulled off her work gloves, and motioned for us to follow her.

Once inside their home, Wanda and Ryszard gave us a tour of their new dwelling, which just so happened to include an upstairs apartment.

As the Lord would have it, they constructed this upstairs apartment with the future in mind - their young daughter would one day live here with her own family. In the immediate future, they eagerly agreed to rent to us, a small family of three.

Larry and I took in our surroundings with shocking disbelief. Our eyes met knowingly, and silently asked, “Have we just found God's needle in a haystack?” The layout seemed to be directly taken from our customized prayer list for an apartment:

  • A kitchen - Check
  • A bathroom - Check
  • A washer - Check
  • A yard where our toddler could play - Check
  • Warm for bitter cold winter weather - Check
  • Windows for light - Check
  • Located in the smog-free zone of the city for healthier air - Check
  • Situated within the home of a Polish family – Check. Specifically, we would share a common entrance and foyer. Only a stairway would separate our lives.

Cups of hot tea with lemon and freshly baked poppy seed cake confirmed the deal. Brushing off the crumbs, we eventually hugged good-bye as if we were long-lost relatives. Larry and I fairly flew out the door on the wings of angels.

Yes! God just showed us His needle in a haystack, a haven for two Americans with a baby feebly following His call on their lives – Check.

“Even before they call I will answer.”  (Isaiah 65:24)

Living With Eternal Intentionality: When have you seen God go before you in answer to a specific prayer?

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage? Put down your iPhone.

Why? Constant preoccupation with one’s iPhone is a distraction.

Distraction says that my focus on someone not here is more important than my focus on you, one who is right here. My attention toward them is more significant than my attention toward us.

Distraction leads to distance. Distance depicts parallel lives, meaning our lives run on separate tracks, and our tracks seldom overlap.

Distance leads to discouragement. Discouragement settles like a dark storm cloud over our relationship, and discouragement makes it harder to persevere and easier to pull away.

Discouragement leads to disillusionment. Disillusionment speaks lies and tempts us to conclude that our marriage is too hard: the assistant is too pretty, the children’s soccer coach is too fit, you are too busy, and I am too bored.

Then, disillusionment leads to…well, let’s not go there!

Distraction, Distance, Discouragement, Disillusionment, and ...

Perhaps I am just old and bold, but I feel strongly about this simple suggestion. Nearly forty four years of marriage to the same man has taught me the incomparable value of good communication.

T a l k i n g  t o  E a c h  O t h e r  

 - is a simple protection against each of the D words listed above. I am not naive enough to believe this is foolproof; it is not. But it is significant.

Talking to each other says,

You matter right now more than anyone else in the world.

Talking to each other says,

I care about what's happening in your heart.

Talking to each other says,

We are worth a focused conversation.

Therefore, my strong suggestion is: to affair-proof your marriage, put down your iPhone. To be really daring, turn it off.

Living with eternal intentionality: What do you think?